The Eleven Year Non-Itch

Biceps and I will celebrate 11 years today as a married couple. This amount of time is just a hair longer than we’ve actually known each other.

Let me tell you, this boy moves fast when he finally comes to a decision. (If you want to know more about our backstory, read “How I met Biceps“. It’s good bathroom reading.)

Eleven years ago today, we said our “I do’s”. And here are eleven things that I’ve learned about my marriage since that wonderful moment we became one:

1. Mumbling under your breath gets you absolutely nowhere except into more anger.

2. Men, no matter who they are, want to hear that they are
A) Hot-not handsome, cute or sexy (although these are good things to say, too) but HOT,
B) A good provider and
C) Able to beat up Daniel Craig.

3. If you want anything to change in your marriage, prayer is the first thing you do, complaining about it is the last.

4. Don’t present a problem in your relationship without a viable solution.

5. Never call your husband’s hands “small” or “cute”. Trust me on this one.

6. If you want your husband to be your best friend, do the things he enjoys doing (within reason and within the boundaries of the law)-including watching that horrible army movie when you would rather watch Alvin and the Chipmunks.

7. A good meal, a clean, peaceful home and a presentable self may seem archaic, but they are magic to a marriage’s soul.

8. If you are your husband’s biggest fan, he will be yours.

9. Never insult your husband in public-only offer praise of the man you chose to marry.

10. If he doesn’t like the shirt, the pants, the shoes, etc.-what’s the point in wearing them? Who am I dressing for anyways?

11. If he screws up, be his confidant, not his condemner.

I love you so much, Biceps. Thank you for waiting for me, for choosing me, for honoring me and for loving me every single day of our married life. I know you aren’t perfect, but you are perfect for me.

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9 Responses to "The Eleven Year Non-Itch"

  1. Wendy Hayden says:

    Wonderful advice! So nice to hear about a happy marriage. I love my husband to pieces and always feel sad when someone puts down their husband or complains about him. No game playing, being upfront and truthful and showing each other respect and love on a daily basis.

    Congrats on your 11th anniversary!

    • Rebekah says:

      Thanks Wendy! I’m so glad to hear you have a great hubby too. It’s so nice to meet other happy ladies in this world, isn’t it?!

  2. Chris says:

    Love it, oh wise young one. :o) Before you know it, you’ll be writing your 40th, 60th, and maybe even more tributes to your love. Time flies, especially when you get to travel together.

  3. mom says:

    I am sitting here crying. What great advice! Steve is looking over your wedding pictures and fell in love with the Daniel Boone Chapel! Such sweet memories.

    • Rebekah says:

      Don’t cry, Mommy! And everything that I am, I attribute to you, Dad and the God you brought me up to know and love. I am so thankful for you guys!

  4. Gwen says:

    Beautiful words of wisdom…I think I violated about four of them today…sigh… thanks for the reminder.

    Happy, happy Anniversary!

    • Rebekah says:

      Well, I violate the things that I’ve learned almost on a daily basis. Just because I’ve learned them, doesn’t mean that I’ve mastered them! Thank God for a patient husband. I can’t believe he puts up with me sometimes…. 🙂

  5. christina says:

    these are some really, really good points!!! I’m so happy I came across your blog (found it via pinterest) – love your wit and style, and totally gel with your perspective and lifestyle =)

  6. Puva says:

    Very good points for all the wives for a happy mariied life. i’m so touched..i feel more and more love for my husband and appreciate your blog dear Rebecca


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